Being Done

Being done doesn’t always mean announcing it to the world. You don’t have to post cryptic quotes on Instagram or write a whole thesis in your group chat. Sometimes being done is quiet. Soft. Unapologetic. Internal first, external later.

Being done can look like:

• Blocking a number with no ceremonial or paragraph essays.

• Not answering the door you used to rush to open.

• Not answering the phone or responding to a text.

• Becoming an Ambassador of Catching Flights not feelings.

• Unfollowing someone emotionally even if they still follow you online.

• Not mirroring energy, but preserving your energy. Let God avenge you.

• Discipling yourself to let Jesus be Lord and Savior over your life.

• Going to bed peacefully without spiraling.

• Going through the process. Sitting in and with the hurt, anger and pain.

• Laughing without looking over your shoulder for emotional whiplash.

• Replenishing and restoring you by any means necessary.

Being done sounds like fewer explanations. Less defending yourself. More of "that’s not going to work for me" and walking away. It is also recognizing that even when people gently push boundaries, it's a sign of disrespect.

And no—it’s not being mean. Even Jesus said if people don't receive you, shake the dust off your feet and move on. That’s where they try to get us, sis. That’s where they play on your kindness, good heart and your Christian principles. But let me remind you:

Done is not mean.

Done is safe.

Done is not bitter.

Done is boundaried.

Done is not rude.

Done is regulated.

Done doesn't require an explanation.